I ran across an article by Eric Hamm called “Is People Pleasing Keeping You From Pleasing The Right People?” Very interesting read to say the least. Being I am an ENFP on the Myers Briggs Scale I have a tendency to want to please people (or as I think of it…”help people”)…that is unless you’re in the small group of individuals that no one would ever want to be a friend of…which there are still some of those folks out there!
I’ve heard it mentioned before, but it was interesting to see it in print again…Hamm says that in the long run, by trying to be a “people pleaser” we’re essentially not pleasing anyone at all.
Tired from the burnout that comes from the over extension of ourselves and frustrated by the fact that we keep letting others take advantage of us, we quickly become ineffective in helping others and often times end up resenting everyone around us.
The article shares some practical ideas and tips to break free from the concern of people pleasing. I’ve outlined each with just a line or two but would encourage you to visit the article for maximum benefit! After you’ve had a chance to read through, I’d be interested in getting your feedback as well…
